07.25.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Hey! Hi! Hello! 👋🏼

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Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week, listen to how you and your mentee talk about their choices and decisions. If your mentee has learned independence, they will be able to say things like:

“I did what was right even when it was hard to do” 

“I was held accountable for my bad choices and paid for my mistakes”

“I worked to get what I wanted it, it wasn’t all handed to me”

“I have the skills to handle my problems head on”

If you’re helping your mentee to learn and practice independence, your words and responses will foster this growth, rather than undermine it. You  will be able to say things like:

“If you really want to do _____, show me that you can do so responsibly.”

“I noticed you made a poor decision. This is the consequence of that decision.” 

“If you really want ____, you can earn it by _____”

“What you did caused ______. You must now take responsibility for fixing it.”

BONUS CHALLENGE:   July is Career Readiness Month so let’s learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: Sometimes routines provide safety and structure, and sometimes they can hinder relationships from moving forward. If you and your mentee always do the same thing when you’re together and you feel like your relationship isn’t growing as much as you’d like it to, perhaps it’s time to switch up your activities. Check out this activity list for lots of ideas! Don’t be afraid to try something new, switch things up once and awhile and challenge yourself and your relationship. You can learn a lot about someone while trying something new with them!

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 5th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

07.18.21 Weekly Mentor Update

It’s another beautiful day in the neighborhood! Sunshine and summer feels are the best!

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Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week’s challenge is to teach your mentee a new life skill. Depending on your mentee’s age, situation and interests, there are many skills you could teach. For example, mail a letter, how to plan a birthday party, how to change a tire, how to set a table, how to order at a counter, how to make a list and go to the grocery store, how to save money, how to read a map, how to give directions…so many options! As you teach the skill, remember that your mentee may not get it on the first try. Be sure to set aside time to give clear directions and allow them time to practice. Be patient and consistent and praise them for their efforts and successes!

BONUS CHALLENGE:   July is Career Readiness Month so let’s learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: “Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances — Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions — Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others . . . ” Boundaries are one of those tricky things we think we understand until we actually stop and think about it. Once we really learn their role in all areas of our lives, we discover the freedom and health they bring. From Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 5th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

“Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.” ~ Margaret Mead

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

07.11.21 Weekly Mentor Update

You know what? We’d REALLY like to hang out with you, to actually see your beautiful faces and to celebrate the work that you do. So, have you RSVP’d to the Annual Intentional Mentoring Cook Out yet? It’s happening Friday, July 23rd from 5:30 – 8:00pm. You can stop by for just a bit or stay the whole time. Significant others and families are welcome too! But, here’s the deal, we NEED you to RSVP either yes OR no so that we know how many to plan for. If you have not yet RSVP’d, please, PLEASE, PLEASE do so by July Friday, 16th. There a few easy ways to RSVP. 1.) Text/call KatieMae @ (262) 366-0030. 2.) Text/call Dana @ (507) 676-0015. 3.) Reply to this email.

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Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week’s challenge is to work on teaching your mentee accountability. The big idea here is for your mentee to connect choice and consequence. This may be a good opportunity for you to share about a time when you made a negative choice that resulted in an unwanted consequence. Talk through what you learned by having to deal with that consequence. You can also share about a time when you made a positive choice that was followed by a desired consequence. This time you can talk through what behavior was reinforced in you as a result of making that choice. Make sure to follow up your examples with questions about times that your mentee has made choices resulting in either desired or undesirable consequences and what they learned from those choices.

BONUS CHALLENGE:   July is Career Readiness Month so let’s learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: Boundaries! Setting and maintaining boundaries is so important for a healthy mentoring relationship. One of the most important boundaries you can set with your mentee is your role. Remember, you are not their parent or their friend, you are their source of support and encouragement – an outside perspective and voice of reason. Maintaining this boundary will protect your mentee from becoming dependent on you and will increase their ability to depend on themselves. Making sure to stick to time commitments and communication schedules will also help maintain healthy boundaries. Protect yourself and your relationship by not letting these boundaries slide.

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 5th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

07.04.21 Weekly Mentor Update

🇺🇸 HAPPY 4TH of JULY 🇺🇸

🌭🍔🍉Have you RSVP’d to the Annual Intentional Mentoring Cook Out yet? Check out the attached flyer and be sure to RSVP. We can’t wait to see you there! 🌭🍔🍉

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Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week’s challenge is work on teaching your mentee self-help. The big idea here is to delay assistance for your mentee just long enough for them to see how, by being resourceful, they can figure some things out for themselves. Maybe your mentee is struggling with an issue in summer school or with a friend. Ask them to come up with a few possible solutions before you give advice. Maybe you’re playing a game together and your mentee is stuck and can’t figure out a move. Again, ask them to come up with possible solutions before you give any advice. The goal here is for your mentee to learn that, in some situations, they are independent enough to help themselves!

BONUS CHALLENGE:   July is Career Readiness Month so let’s learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: Part of having strong communication in a relationship is giving and receiving feedback. This can be tough to do, but it’s key in building lasting relationships that empower all people involved. Start easy with things like, how do you think I did at planning our time together today? Or, ask for feedback on which of your meetings your mentee has enjoyed the most and why. Also be sure to give your mentee feedback on how they responded to different situations or how well they handled the conversations you had. If your mentee missed your time together or didn’t respond to your text, let them know how that made you feel. The more feedback you’re willing to give and receive, the closer you and your mentee will become!

📸We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 5th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves. —Steven Spielberg

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

06.27.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Good Afternoon! It’s almost July and that means it’s almost time for our annual Intentional Mentoring Cookout! Make sure to check out the flyer attached below and be on the lookout for more info coming at ya through social media and text/email! 🍔🌭

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Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week’s challenge is to think about ways you can encourage your mentee to be independent and then facilitate a way for them to try it out. Going to get some ice cream? Have your mentee place their own order. At a museum or other local event? Encourage your mentee to ask a staff member a question. Going somewhere new? Have your mentee stop to ask for directions. See how comfortable your mentee is with being independent in these ways in order to give yourself some perspective about where you can grow together!

BONUS CHALLENGE:   July is Career Readiness Month so let’s learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: Open and honest communication are keys to strong relationships. Be sure to set up a communication plan with your mentee – figure out if you will text, call, e-mail or use other social media channels to keep in touch. Determine what is the best day of the week and/or time to reach each other. Once your communication plan is set, be sure to stick to it and let each other know if anything changes or if you feel it’s not working for one of you.

📸We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, June 28th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, June 7th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you. —Bob Proctor

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

06.20.21 Weekly Mentor Update

👔 HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!! 👔

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Challenge for the week:

For June, the challenges will center around the theme of Embrace Diversity. This week’s challenge is to learn about other cultures. You could share and talk about you and your mentee’s cultural traditions, learn to say a few words in another language (check out Ways to Say Hello in Different Languages), try some ethnic foods (Best Ethnic Restaurants in Madison) or visit a cultural exhibit (Visit Madison – Museums & Galleries). Explore and learn together!

BONUS CHALLENGE:  We can’t let any more time pass without doing the work to fight for social justice. This month’s bonus challenge is to begin or continue the work in yourself. I don’t know where each of you are in your journey or what you need to hear, but I do know that we are all works in progress with room to grow. Here are several resources to help you on your journey. Anti-Racist Resources

TIP of the WEEK: It can be hard to remember that a mentor’s role is not to be a friend or a parent but to be a listening ear, a voice of wisdom and a source of truth. Hold tight to your role and never underestimate its value in your mentee’s life!  

📸We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, June 28th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, June 7th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

06.13.21 Weekly Mentor Update

😎 It’s SUMMERTIME! 😎

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Challenge for the week:

For June, the challenges will center around the theme of Embrace Diversity. This week’s challenge is to take a look at diversity in the arts. There are many cultural influences in music, art and dance, some that your mentee may be aware of, and others that they may not be aware of. In order to expose your mentee to different styles, you could take a trip to the art museum or to the music store. If that’s not an option, pull up YouTube and search up cultural dances and songs. Perhaps you could go to the library and ask the librarian to help you locate books or magazines about art, dance or music from different cultures. Have your mentee share the arts of their culture and make sure that you share the arts of yours too!

BONUS CHALLENGE:  We can’t let any more time pass without doing the work to fight for social justice. This month’s bonus challenge is to begin or continue the work in yourself. I don’t know where each of you are in your journey or what you need to hear, but I do know that we are all works in progress with room to grow. Here are several resources to help you on your journey. Anti-Racist Resources

TIP of the WEEK: Active listening can help build trust and rapport with your mentee. When having a discussion, try following up what your mentee says with responses such as “I heard you say . . . ” “Now that you say that, I’m wondering . . . ” “Can you tell me more about . . . “

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, June 28th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, June 7th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

​It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength.   ~Maya Angelou

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

06.06.21 Weekly Mentor Update

It’s the last week of school for our mentees and that means it’s almost SUMMER! Be sure to check-in with your mentee this week about how moving from school to summer has them feeling. For some, this is a very exciting time and, for others, it’s a stressful time. Both feelings are OK but need to be approached in different ways. Remember to reach out to your coach if you need any support in supporting your mentee!

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Challenge for the week:

For June, the challenges will center around the theme of Embrace Diversity. This week’s challenge is to define diversity. What does your mentee think diversity means? When they think about diversity, what comes to mind? Is their perception accurate or limited? See what they know and then open their mind to more possibilities. How can expanding your mentee’s definition of diversity help them to further embrace diversity? Last week I suggested several different ways to expose your mentee to diversity, perhaps you could use one of these options this week to enhance your discussion. The list from last week was: playing at a park or walking through a neighborhood unlike their own, reading a book or watching a movie about children/people who have a different cultural background than them, or looking for a cultural event going on around the city (perhaps it’s happening virtually!)

BONUS CHALLENGE:  We can’t let any more time pass without doing the work to fight for social justice. This month’s bonus challenge is to begin or continue the work in yourself. I don’t know where each of you are in your journey or what you need to hear, but I do know that we are all works in progress with room to grow. Here are several resources to help you on your journey. Anti-Racist Resources

TIP of the WEEK: Relationships take time. If you’re new to mentoring or you’ve been with your mentee for a few months, know that it’s okay if you don’t feel like your relationship is very deep yet. Before you judge yourself and your ability to connect with your mentee ask yourself some questions. 1.) How open and vulnerable have you been with your mentee? Don’t expect them to do what you haven’t modeled yourself. 2.) What do you know about your mentee’s past? Could they have been through (or are currently going through) experiences that make it hard for them to trust adults? 3.) What is your goal? If you’re trying to go deeper with your mentee so that you can figure out their “issue” and “fix” them, then you’re going to need to talk to your coach about setting a new goal. If you’re wanting to go deeper so that you can understand them, support them and grow in relationship together, then keep listening, keep showing up, keep asking questions and keep building trust. Depth will happen when your mentee is ready.

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, June 28th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, June 7th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves. ~ Steven Spielberg

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

05.30.21 Weekly Mentor Update

🇺🇸 Happy Memorial Day Weekend! To all of you who are members of the military, have military family and/or know someone who gave their life for our country, we want to share our sincere gratitude for their sacrifice, and yours. 🇺🇸

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Challenge for the week:

For June, the challenges will center around the theme of Embracing Diversity. This week’s challenge is to expose your mentee to a situation that shows them some of the diversity in our world. This could mean playing at a park or walking through a neighborhood unlike their own, reading a book or watching a movie about children/people who have a different cultural background than them, or looking for a cultural event going on around the city. No matter how you embrace diversity, be sure to talk to your mentee about their thoughts and feelings and, most importantly, be sure to LISTEN!

BONUS CHALLENGE:  We can’t let any more time pass without doing the work to fight for social justice. This month’s bonus challenge is to begin or continue the work in yourself. I don’t know where each of you are in your journey or what you need to hear, but I do know that we are all works in progress with room to grow. Here are several resources to help you on your journey. Anti-Racist Resources

TIP of the WEEK: Goals, goals, goals, goals, goals. You’re probably sick of me talking about goals and your mentee might be sick of talking about them too. BUT, if we don’t talk about them, they may not happen. Ahhh! So, maybe you take a break from talking and give the action steps some time to get moving and THEN you talk about them again. Because, of course, you can’t just set a goal, make some action steps and then never check-in. It’s hard for adults to stick to their goals (hello New Year’s Resolutions . . . ) so imagine how important it is for a student to have someone holding them accountable. Keep checking in. Keep nagging if you have to. Trust me, they’ll thank you later 🙂 

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, June 28th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, June 7th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

“Mentors are not there to make us happy. They are there to guide us to the best of their knowledge. ~ Samira DeAndrade

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

05.23.21 Weekly Mentor Update

It’s a lovely Sunday evening to sit down and write an email to all of you wonderful volunteers. I hope you find it helpful and, perhaps, even a bit inspiring!

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Challenge for the week:

For May, the challenges will center around the theme of Live Healthy, Be Healthy. This week’s challenge is to talk to your mentee about social health. What do you know about your mentee’s friendships? Do they have lots of friends, a few close friends, one good friend? Do they fall prey to peer pressure, do things just to fit in? Ask them what school is like outside of class. What do they do at lunch or recess? What does it feel like for them when a teacher says “find a partner to work with?” Are they more of a follower or more of a leader? What are their family relationships like? Share your experiences, ask them about theirs, challenge their thoughts and your own!

BONUS CHALLENGE:  May is Mental Health Awareness month. It’s normal for children and youth to experience a wide range of strong emotions as they grow and mature. However, when extreme emotions start having negative effects on relationships and daily activities, it’s time to intervene. Check out YouthGov.Org for more information. 

TIP of the WEEK: Goals are so helpful but can be so difficult for kids to set. That’s where you come in! Do you know what interests your mentee wants to pursue in the near future? Mostly likely, your mentee has thought about interests, dreams and/or a career they’d like to pursue someday. However, it’s just as likely they don’t have a plan for how they’ll get there. Talking about goal setting, making action steps and creating a plan could put your mentee on a pretty big learning curve. However, the sooner they get on that curve, the sooner they reach their goals! And, you’ll be right there with them supporting them along the way! 

 📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, May 24th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, May 3rd 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring