7/26/20 Weekly Mentor Update

It’s the last week of July already. Can you believe it? I can and I can’t. Somehow, no matter how strange life is right now, it still keeps moving forward!

*Just a friendly reminder – please be mindful of Dane County’s face mask order. If you are spending time indoors with your mentee, be sure that you’re both wearing a mask (We have some if you or your mentee need one). If you’re outdoors, please remain cautious and smart about your interactions with each other.

Don’t forget to follow us and tag us on social media! Look for IntentionalMentoringMadison on FB, Instagram and Twitter!

Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week, listen to how you and your mentee talk about their choices and decisions. If your mentee has learned independence, they will be able to say things like:

“I did what was right even when it was hard to do” 

“I was held accountable for my bad choices and paid for my mistakes”

“I worked to get what I wanted it, it wasn’t all handed to me”

“I have the skills to handle my problems head on”

If you’re helping your mentee to learn and practice independence, your words and responses will foster this growth, rather than undermine it. You  will be able to say things like:

“If you really want to do _____, show me that you can do so responsibly.”

“I noticed you made a poor decision. This is the consequence of that decision.” 

“If you really want ____, you can earn it by _____”

“What you did caused ______. You must now take responsibility for fixing it.”

BONUS CHALLENGE: July is Career Readiness Month so lets learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: Sometimes routines provide safety and structure, and sometimes they can hinder relationships from moving forward. If you and your mentee always do the same thing when you’re together and you feel like your relationship isn’t growing as much as you’d like it to, perhaps it’s time to switch up your activities. Check out our activity list for lots of ideas! Don’t be afraid to try something new, switch things up once and awhile and challenge yourself and your relationship. You can learn a lot about someone while trying something new with them!

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We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

MARILYN: TBD  marilyn@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

VAL: Tuesday, July 14th 5:30-:30 p.m.  val@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

ASHLEY: Thursday, July 16th 7-8 a.m.  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 6th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK

Being humble means recognizing that we are not on earth to see how important we can become, but to see how much difference we can make in the lives of others. —Gordon B. Hinckley

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

7/19/20 Weekly Mentor Update

You guys, we are SO grateful and thankful for you all! Despite a pandemic and standing up for racial justice and politics and, well, life, you are still putting students first and leaning into your mentoring role in new ways. It may not seem like it to you, but that is honorable!

*Just a friendly reminder – please be mindful of Dane County’s new face mask order starting tomorrow. If you are spending time indoors with your mentee, be sure that you’re both wearing a mask (We have some if you or your mentee need one). If you’re outdoors, please remain cautious and smart about your interactions with each other.

Don’t forget to follow us and tag us on social media! Look for IntentionalMentoringMadison on FB, Instagram and Twitter!

Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week’s challenge is to teach your mentee a new life skill. Depending on your mentee’s age, situation and interests, there are many skills you could teach. For example, how to wash dishes, how to plan a birthday party, how to organize a closet, how to set a table, how to order at a counter, how to make a list and go to the grocery store, how to save money, how to read a map, how to give directions…so many options! As you teach the skill, remember that your mentee may not get it on the first try. Be sure to set aside time to give clear directions and allow them time to practice. Be patient and consistent and praise them for their efforts and successes!

BONUS CHALLENGE: July is Career Readiness Month so lets learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: “Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances — Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions — Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others . . . ” From Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Boundaries are one of those tricky things we think we understand until we actually stop and think about it. Once we really learn their role in all areas of our lives, we discover the freedom and health they bring.

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We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

MARILYN: TBD  marilyn@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

VAL: Tuesday, July 14th 5:30-:30 p.m.  val@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

ASHLEY: Thursday, July 16th 7-8 a.m.  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 6th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK

“Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.” ~ Margaret Mead

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

7/12/20 Weekly Mentor Update

Hi again 🙂 I’m not quite sure how it’s Sunday again and time for another weekly update, but here we are and here you go!

*Just a friendly reminder – please be mindful of Dane County’s new face mask order starting tomorrow. If you are spending time indoors with your mentee, be sure that you’re both wearing a mask (We have some if you or your mentee need one). If you’re outdoors, please remain cautious and smart about your interactions with each other.

Don’t forget to follow us and tag us on social media! Look for IntentionalMentoringMadison on FB, Instagram and Twitter!

Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week’s challenge is to work on teaching your mentee accountability. The big idea here is for your mentee to connect choice and consequence. This may be a good opportunity for you to share about a time when you made a negative choice that resulted in an unwanted consequence. Talk through what you learned by having to deal with that consequence. You can also share about a time when you made a positive choice that was followed by a desired consequence. This time you can talk through what behavior was reinforced in you as a result of making that choice. Make sure to follow up your examples with questions about times that your mentee has made choices resulting in either desired or undesirable consequences and what they learned from those choices.

BONUS CHALLENGE: July is Career Readiness Month so lets learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: Boundaries! Setting and maintaining boundaries is so important for a healthy mentoring relationship. One of the most important boundaries you can set with your mentee is your role. Remember, you are not their parent or their friend, you are their source of support and encouragement – an outside perspective and voice of reason. Maintaining this boundary will protect your mentee from becoming dependent on you and will increase their ability to depend on themselves. Making sure to stick to time commitments and communication schedules will also help maintain healthy boundaries. Protect yourself and your relationship by not letting these boundaries slide.

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We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

MARILYN: TBD  marilyn@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

VAL: Tuesday, July 14th 5:30-:30 p.m.  val@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

ASHLEY: Thursday, July 16th 7-8 a.m.  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 6th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

7/5/20 Weekly Mentor Update

This July heat – oh my word! It just never ends. Stay cool out there people. Water is your friend!

CONGRATULATIONS to our activity box raffle winners, Megan and her mentee Amoni!! We are so excited about all of the fun you’ll be having together at Michael’s Frozen Custard, Vitense Golfland and Marcus Theaters! Ice cream, mini-golf and movies – yippee!

Don’t forget to follow us and tag us on social media! Look for IntentionalMentoringMadison on FB, Instagram and Twitter!

Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week’s challenge is work on teaching your mentee self-help. The big idea here is to delay assistance for your mentee just long enough for them to see how, by being resourceful, they can figure some things out for themselves. Maybe your mentee is struggling with an issue in summer school or with a friend, ask them to come up with a few possible solutions before you give advice. Maybe you’re playing a game together and your mentee is stuck and can’t figure out a move, again, ask them to come up with possible solutions before you give any advice. The goal here is for your mentee to learn that, in some situations, they are independent enough to help themselves!

BONUS CHALLENGE: July is Career Readiness Month so lets learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: Part of having strong communication in a relationship is giving and receiving feedback. This can be tough to do, but it’s key in building lasting relationships that empower all people involved. Start easy with things like, how do you think I did at planning our time together today? Or, ask for feedback on which of your meetings your mentee has enjoyed the most and why. Also be sure to give your mentee feedback on how they responded to different situations or how well they handled the conversations you had. If your mentee missed your time together or didn’t respond to your text, let them know how that made you feel. The more feedback you’re willing to give and receive, the closer you and your mentee will become!

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We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

MARILYN: TBD  marilyn@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

VAL: Tuesday, July 14th 5:30-:30 p.m.  val@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

ASHLEY: Thursday, July 16th 7-8 a.m.  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 6th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK

“Show me a successful individual and I’ll show you someone who had real positive influences in his or her life. I don’t care what you do for a living—if you do it well I’m sure there was someone cheering you on or showing the way. A mentor.” ~ Denzel Washington

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring