09/19/21 Weekly Mentor Update

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Challenge for the week:

For September, the challenges will center around the theme of Back to School. This week’s challenge is to work with your mentee to set SMART goals. Use this document to talk through some personal, behavioral and/or academic goals that you will monitor and track with your mentee throughout the school year. Your coaches will be checking in with you about this and offering you support in helping your mentee work toward achieving the goals they set!

BONUS CHALLENGE: September is Back-to-School Month and this means joy for some, anxiety for others and fear for a few. Let’s challenge ourselves to meet our mentees where they’re at this month. Walking alongside someone and sharing in their joy enhances that experience for them. Walking next to someone in moments of anxiety provides them with a sense of security and support. Walking beside someone who is afraid gives them a sense of safety and encouragement. Let’s be the people who walk alongside, next to and beside others this month.

TIP of the WEEK:  

There are several ways to support students who have experienced trauma. 

  • Physical – Help ensure their basic needs are met so that they may feel comfortable. Think – rest, water, food and warmth.
  • Emotional – Create a trusting environment where they can share their emotions and express concerns while receiving respect and acceptance. Also, support risk-taking.
  • Social – Help them feel a sense of belonging and connection, model self-awareness, delay a need for gratification and help them develop empathy
  • Moral – Communicate honestly and with integrity, show them they can trust you and let them know that they can struggle while still being in a trustworthy environment.

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, September 27th 6:30 – 7:30  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, September 6th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

Without a mentor in life, one can easily succumb to folly. Without a mentor in life, one can easily become self-centered, capricious and arrogant. ~Anonymous

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

09.12.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Football is back!! Are you excited? Let’s hope what is happening right now isn’t a sign of things to come for the Packers 😬

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Please review the COVID update below from our director, KatieMae.

Dear Intentional Mentoring Community,
Since the beginning of the pandemic, Intentional Mentoring has been maintaining a COVID policy that aligns with the current CDC recommendations and MMSD’s district policies.
As we move into this school year and continue to support our students and families, we want to make sure our policy is clear for our entire Intentional Mentoring community.  Please see the points below and reach out if you have questions or concerns
.

  • Mentoring meetings may happen in person as long as the student, student’s family, and mentor are comfortable.  If they happen inside and in person, or where appropriate distancing cannot happen, masks must be worn.
  • The mentor is responsible for respecting the wishes of students and families.  If they are unsure of how to approach this conversation, they should work with their mentor coach.
  • The mentor is responsible for continuing to meet with the student each week whether that be virtually or in person.  If they have concerns about this, they should meet with their coach.
  • Any meetings for interviews, pairings, coaching, or planning may happen in person if all parties are comfortable.  If they happen indoors and in person, or where appropriate distancing cannot happen, masks must be worn.

Thanks for helping support the safety of our community.

Challenge for the week:

For September, the challenges will center around the theme of Back to School. This week’s challenge is to do a check-in. Before school started, you talked to your mentee about their hopes and anxieties for the school year. This week, check-in with them. How were they able to deal with their anxieties the first week? Did their fears dissipate or change? Do they see possibility in their hopes? Did new anxieties or hopes show up? Get them talking about what they’re feeling! As always, talk, question, listen, challenge and encourage your mentee!

BONUS CHALLENGE: September is Back-to-School Month and this means joy for some, anxiety for others and fear for a few. Let’s challenge ourselves to meet our mentees where they’re at this month. Walking alongside someone and sharing in their joy enhances that experience for them. Walking next to someone in moments of anxiety provides them with a sense of security and support. Walking beside someone who is afraid gives them a sense of safety and encouragement. Let’s be the people who walk alongside, next to and beside others this month.

TIP of the WEEK:  

You may not be aware of any ACE’s (Adverse Childhood Experiences) that your mentee has experienced, but if they are exhibiting any of the symptoms below, it’s likely they have experienced one or several. 

-Basic mistrust of adults/unable to depend on others

-Belief that the world is unsafe and/or bad things will happen

-Assumes blame, rejection, fear/anxiety

-Feelings of hopelessness/pessimism

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, September 27th 6:30 – 7:30  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, September 6th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

15 Quotes that Will Change the Way You Treat People

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

09.05.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Hello and Happy Labor Day Weekend! Hooray for a long weekend and (hopefully) a little extra sleep tomorrow morning!

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Please review the COVID update below from our director, KatieMae.

Dear Intentional Mentoring Community,
Since the beginning of the pandemic, Intentional Mentoring has been maintaining a COVID policy that aligns with the current CDC recommendations and MMSD’s district policies.
As we move into this school year and continue to support our students and families, we want to make sure our policy is clear for our entire Intentional Mentoring community.  Please see the points below and reach out if you have questions or concerns
.

  • Mentoring meetings may happen in person as long as the student, student’s family, and mentor are comfortable.  If they happen inside and in person, or where appropriate distancing cannot happen, masks must be worn.
  • The mentor is responsible for respecting the wishes of students and families.  If they are unsure of how to approach this conversation, they should work with their mentor coach.
  • The mentor is responsible for continuing to meet with the student each week whether that be virtually or in person.  If they have concerns about this, they should meet with their coach.
  • Any meetings for interviews, pairings, coaching, or planning may happen in person if all parties are comfortable.  If they happen indoors and in person, or where appropriate distancing cannot happen, masks must be worn.

Thanks for helping support the safety of our community.

Challenge for the week:

For September, the challenges will center around the theme of Back to School. This week’s challenge is to surprise your mentee with a little back to school love. Maybe they find out on the first day that blue pencil pouches are the coolest thing ever, but theirs is purple. Could you get them a blue one? Maybe, you go have lunch at school with your mentee (definitely ask them first if this is okay with them). How about instead of hanging out at 5:00 pm, you pick them up from school and take them to get their favorite ice cream flavor. Or, how about writing some happy, fun notes and asking your mentee’s parent/caregiver to put them in his/her lunchbox each day. Another idea is to start a growth chart and plan to see how much your mentee grows throughout the year. Whatever it is, make sure to spoil your mentee a little bit and show them that back to school is FUN! As always, talk, question, listen, challenge and encourage your mentee!

BONUS CHALLENGE: September is Back-to-School Month and this means joy for some, anxiety for others and fear for a few. Let’s challenge ourselves to meet our mentees where they’re at this month. Walking alongside someone and sharing in their joy enhances that experience for them. Walking next to someone in moments of anxiety provides them with a sense of security and support. Walking beside someone who is afraid gives them a sense of safety and encouragement. Let’s be the people who walk alongside, next to and beside others this month.

TIP of the WEEK:  Several different ACE’s (Adverse Childhood Experiences) can impact children for years after their experience. Some examples of ACE’s are: Abuse (physical, emotional or sexual), neglect (emotional or physical), household dysfunction (substance abuse, mental illness, divorce, or incarcerated parent), witnessed violence, unsafe neighborhood, bullying, or lived in foster care. There are also culture-based sources of trauma. These may include discrimination, racism, microaggressions, homelessness/mobility, immigration stress and social isolation. If your mentee has experienced any of these things, they are most likely dealing with the impact of their experience.

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, September 27th 6:30 – 7:30  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, September 6th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

08.29.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Here we go, people! September and the first day of school are hitting us this week. Are you ready???

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Challenge for the week:

For September, the challenges will center around the theme of Back to School. This week’s challenge is to set aside some time to talk to your mentee about how they are feeling about going back to school. Make a list of the things they are afraid of or anxious about and the things they are excited about or looking forward to. Be intentional about helping them address their fears and anxieties and find out why certain things excite them. Keep this list in mind so that you can come back to it in a few weeks to check-in! As always, talk, question, listen, challenge and encourage your mentee!

BONUS CHALLENGE: September is Back-to-School Month and this means joy for some, anxiety for others and fear for a few. Let’s challenge ourselves to meet our mentees where they’re at this month. Walking alongside someone and sharing in their joy enhances that experience for them. Walking next to someone in moments of anxiety provides them with a sense of security and support. Walking beside someone who is afraid gives them a sense of safety and encouragement. Let’s be the people who walk alongside, next to and beside others this month.

TIP of the WEEK:  Did you know that there are several different types of trauma? Trauma can be experienced in the form of a one-time event, a series of events (possibly over a period of time) or through historical events (cumulative emotional and psychological wounding across generations). Some events/experiences that may cause trauma are natural disasters, human-cause disasters, community violence, school violence, family trauma, refugee trauma, medical trauma, poverty, racial trauma and/or historical trauma. Not everyone responds the same to any one event or any series of events. It’s our job to understand this and to do our best to help our mentees build their capacity to unlearn the damaging effects they may be experiencing (possibly unknowingly) as a result of trauma.

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, September 27th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, September 6th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

08.22.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Hello! I hope you all are having a fantastic weekend! We’re excited that you are here and reading our weekly update 🙂

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Challenge for the week:

For August, the challenges will center around the theme of Friendship. This week’s challenge is to talk to your mentee about what it means to be a good friend. Some things that make a good friend are:

  • Remembering important things  (birthdays, accomplishments, etc.)
  • Being reliable
  • Doing kind things for one another and using kind language
  • Helping out when a friend is sad or has a problem
  • Spending time together
  • Having fun with one another

A few ways you could teach your mentee about what it means to be a good friend are by role playing, setting a good example, reading books about friendship or watching movies about friendship. As always, talk, question, listen, challenge and encourage your mentee while participating in any activity and have fun!

BONUS CHALLENGE:   August is Advocacy Month and, according to MENTOR, Members of Congress make strong commitments to mentoring and youth development during this month. You can help the cause by choosing to advocate on behalf of a number of legislative issues. Click this link to learn more and to send a quick note to our legislatures.  

TIP of the WEEK:  Your mentor peers and your coach aren’t just meant to support you once per month. Have you swapped phone numbers and/or emails with the other mentors in your group? If not, go for it and then make an effort to reach out when you are faced with a challenge, need a little encouragement or want to share an accomplishment. Also, don’t forget how valuable your advice is to other mentors in your group! Take the opportunity to share about your experiences and offer yourself as a resource. You are not meant to mentor alone and you certainly aren’t meant to keep all of the wonderful things you’re doing a secret. What you do matters, the questions you have matter and the advice you can offer matters. 

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, August 2ne 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

Only the fearful would feel empowerment is something best kept to oneself, or the few, and not shared with all.” ~Rasheed Ogunlaru

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

08.16.21 Weekly Mentor Update

It may be Monday night, but that doesn’t mean it’s too late for this week’s email . . . it just means that I got distracted yesterday. Oops! 😊

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Challenge for the week:

For August, the challenges will center around the theme of Friendship. This week’s challenge is to do a friendship activity with your mentee. Some possible ideas are to:

  • Make friendship bracelets
  • Plan to read and discuss the book Wonder
  • Watch and discuss a movie that teachers about friendship (Toy Story, My Girl, E.T., The Sandlot, Charlotte’s Web, Finding Nemo, Bridge to Terabithia, Lilo and Stitch)
  • Have your mentee journal and discuss some of these questions

As always, talk, question, listen, challenge and encourage your mentee while participating in any activity and have fun!

BONUS CHALLENGE:   August is Advocacy Month and, according to MENTOR, Members of Congress make strong commitments to mentoring and youth development during this month. You can help the cause by choosing to advocate on behalf of a number of legislative issues. Click this link to learn more and to send a quick note to our legislatures.  

TIP of the WEEK:  Remember that you’re not alone! Your coach and peer mentors are excellent resources! It’s important for you to rely on them and depend on them for support, ideas and feedback. 

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, August 2ne 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves. ~Steven Spielberg

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

08.08.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Happy Sunday Afternoon! I sure hope this email finds you rested, eager and ready for another great week of mentoring!

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Challenge for the week:

For August, the challenges will center around the theme of Friendship. This week’s challenge is to plan an outing with your mentee and a friend or two. Maybe you could bring one of your friends too! You could have a game night, play at the park together, shoot some hoops, do a craft…whatever you enjoy! Make sure it’s an activity that involves conversation and interaction. After the get-together, be sure to spend some one-on-one time with your mentee talking about what you noticed, asking questions about his/her interactions with their friends and allowing them to ask you questions about your friendships too. Have fun!

BONUS CHALLENGE:   August is Advocacy Month and, according to MENTOR, Members of Congress make strong commitments to mentoring and youth development during this month. You can help the cause by choosing to advocate on behalf of a number of legislative issues. Click this link to learn more and to send a quick note to our legislatures.  

TIP of the WEEK:  Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to develop a deep relationship with your mentee right away. Relationships take time to develop and this can be especially true when entering into a relationship with a kid who has been through or seen trauma. You showing up, being present, following through and being patient means more to your mentee than you know. When you’re feeling like you’re not doing enough, getting through enough or accomplishing enough, remember that you matter and you’re appreciated even when it doesn’t feel like it. Stay the course, be persistent and trust the process!

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, August 2ne 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

​”It became my mission to work with young people to help show them the way, not save them! But help them understand that there are choices that can be made today that will make the difference for their rest of their lives.” ~Jose A. Aviles

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

08.01.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Welcome to August folks! Time to pack in everything left on our summer bucket lists and soak up as much sunshine as possible!

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Challenge for the week:

For August, the challenges will center around the theme of Friendship. This week’s challenge is to have an intentional conversation about friendships with your mentee. You’ve probably already talked, at least some, about your mentee’s friends, but what do you know about their views on friendship? Do they value friendship? Do they prefer a few close friends or a large group of friends? In their opinion, what makes a good friend? Do they think they are a good friend? Why or why not? Instead of talking about who their friends are, talk about why those are their friends. Get some insight into where they’re mind is in terms of friendship so that you can dig in further over the next couple of weeks!

BONUS CHALLENGE:   August is Advocacy Month and, according to MENTOR, Members of Congress make strong commitments to mentoring and youth development during this month. You can help the cause by choosing to advocate on behalf of a number of legislative issues. Click this link to learn more and to send a quick note to our legislatures.  

TIP of the WEEK: It’s hard to achieve a goal if you never set one. Am I right, or am I right? Many times kids don’t think about much more than what’s happening within the next 5 minutes, which can make goal setting difficult for them. Be their helper in visualizing tasks, activities, conversations, work, etc. that they want to accomplish and then work with your mentee to design, and begin working toward, a SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timely) goal. 

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, August 2ne 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: What! You, too? I thought I was the only one.” ~C.S. Lewis

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

07.25.21 Weekly Mentor Update

Hey! Hi! Hello! 👋🏼

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Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week, listen to how you and your mentee talk about their choices and decisions. If your mentee has learned independence, they will be able to say things like:

“I did what was right even when it was hard to do” 

“I was held accountable for my bad choices and paid for my mistakes”

“I worked to get what I wanted it, it wasn’t all handed to me”

“I have the skills to handle my problems head on”

If you’re helping your mentee to learn and practice independence, your words and responses will foster this growth, rather than undermine it. You  will be able to say things like:

“If you really want to do _____, show me that you can do so responsibly.”

“I noticed you made a poor decision. This is the consequence of that decision.” 

“If you really want ____, you can earn it by _____”

“What you did caused ______. You must now take responsibility for fixing it.”

BONUS CHALLENGE:   July is Career Readiness Month so let’s learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: Sometimes routines provide safety and structure, and sometimes they can hinder relationships from moving forward. If you and your mentee always do the same thing when you’re together and you feel like your relationship isn’t growing as much as you’d like it to, perhaps it’s time to switch up your activities. Check out this activity list for lots of ideas! Don’t be afraid to try something new, switch things up once and awhile and challenge yourself and your relationship. You can learn a lot about someone while trying something new with them!

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 5th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring

07.18.21 Weekly Mentor Update

It’s another beautiful day in the neighborhood! Sunshine and summer feels are the best!

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Challenge for the week:

For July, the challenges will center around the theme of Independence. This week’s challenge is to teach your mentee a new life skill. Depending on your mentee’s age, situation and interests, there are many skills you could teach. For example, mail a letter, how to plan a birthday party, how to change a tire, how to set a table, how to order at a counter, how to make a list and go to the grocery store, how to save money, how to read a map, how to give directions…so many options! As you teach the skill, remember that your mentee may not get it on the first try. Be sure to set aside time to give clear directions and allow them time to practice. Be patient and consistent and praise them for their efforts and successes!

BONUS CHALLENGE:   July is Career Readiness Month so let’s learn about how you can help your mentee start preparing now. Step 1: Find out what your mentee wants to be when they grow up. If they have several ideas, learn more about their specific interests in each. If they have one idea, find out what made them hone in on that one. If they don’t have any ideas, help them sort through their interests and then share some careers that match those interests. If you need help, have them fill out this interest survey.

TIP of the WEEK: “Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances — Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions — Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others . . . ” Boundaries are one of those tricky things we think we understand until we actually stop and think about it. Once we really learn their role in all areas of our lives, we discover the freedom and health they bring. From Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

📸 We love seeing photos of you and your mentee spending time together! Please share them with us via your coach or using the hashtag #intentionalmentoringmadison 📸

Mentor Coaching Group Meeting Dates:

ASHLEY: Monday, August 30th 6:45 – 7:45  ashley@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

RYAN: Monday, July 5th 5:30 – 6:30 p.m.  Ryan@intentionalmentoringmadison.org

Upcoming Events to Note

If you have a change in personal information (phone/address/email) please respond to this email or notify your mentor coach ASAP. 

QUOTE of the WEEK 

“Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.” ~ Margaret Mead

All the best,

Intentional Mentoring